Habit

Daily Habits that Waste Time and Energy

YOUR LIFE IS YOUR BUSINESS! YOUR HABITS ARE YOUR LIFE!

Patience is not about waiting, it’s the ability to maintain a positive outlook while working hard for what you believe in.

In all walks of life, you become what you habitually do. You will never make progress or change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret to success is always found in your daily habits and routines.

Regardless of your unique life situation or how you personally define success, you can’t become an overnight success. You become successful over time from all the little things you do one day at a time.

Failure occurs in the same way. All your little daily failures (that you don’t learn and grow from) come together and cause you to fail…

You fail to check the books. You fail to make the calls. You fail to listen to your customers. You fail to innovate. You fail to do what must be done.

And then one day you wake up and your business has failed. It was all the little things you did or didn’t do along the way — your daily habits — not just one big catastrophic event.

Changing nothing and expect different results.

The definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you do what you have always done, you’ll get what you always got. Oftentimes the only difference between a successful person and a person who makes little progress is not one’s superior abilities, but the courage that one has to bet on their ideas, to take calculated risks, and to take steady steps forward.

Some people sit and wait for the magic beans to grow, the rest of get up and get to work.

Waiting for the right time.

Even with productive intentions, we mostly waste our time waiting for ideal paths to appear before taking action. They never do because paths are made by walking, not waiting.

Think of today as the beginning, the conception of a new life. The next nine months will bare a life. You can do with the time as you please. Make it count! Because a new person is born in nine months. Who do you want that person to be? Decide. You shouldn’t feel more confident before you take the next step. Taking the next step is what brings you confidence. It fuels your growth.

Believeing that good things come fast and easy.

A goal is a point of achievement that requires effort and sacrifice. There are no esteemed goals worth participating in that don’t require some level of effort and sacrifice. You will not remember the days that were easy. You will cherish the moments when you rose above difficulties and conquered challenges of magnitude. You will dream of the strength you found within yourself that allowed you to achieve what once seemed impossible.

So don’t just do what’s easy, do what you are barely capable of. Astound yourself with your own abilities. And as you struggle forward, remember, it’s far better to be exhausted from effort and learning than to be tired of doing nothing. Effort is never wasted, even when it leads to disappointing results or failure. It always makes you stronger, more experienced, and better.

Refusing to accept necessary risks.

Living is about learning as you go. Every decision, interaction, and step. Every time you get out of bed in the morning, you take a small risk. To truly live is to know you’re taking a risk, and to trust yourself to take it. To not get out of bed, clutching to illusions of safety, is to die slowly without ever having truly lived.

If you ignore your instincts and let shallow feelings of uncertainty constantly stop you, you will never know anything certainly, and in many ways this non-knowing will be worse than finding out your instincts or intuitions were wrong. If you were wrong, you could make adjustments, and carry on with your life without always looking back and wondering what might have been.

Making the rejections of yesterday the focal point of today.

Be okay with walking away when the time comes. Rejection teaches us how to reject what’s not right for our well-being. It won’t always be easy, some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in losing yourself in trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.

All too often we allow the rejections of our past dictate every move we make thereafter. We literally do not know ourselves to be any better than what some opinionated person or isolated circumstance once told us was true.

Of course, this old rejection doesn’t mean we aren’t good enough — it means the other person or circumstance failed to align with what we had to offer at the time. It means we have more time now to improve our thing, to build upon our ideas, to perfect our craft, and to indulge deeper in the work that moves us. And that’s exactly what YOU need to do, starting now.

Refusing to take responsibility.

You aren’t responsible for everything that has happened to you, but you need to be responsible for undoing the thinking and behavioral patterns these outcomes have created within you. Blaming the past for a limiting mindset today doesn’t fix anything. Change your response to what you remember to move forward.

A combination of your decisions and external factors for which you had no control brought you to where you are today. Negatively blaming someone else, or some past circumstance, will change nothing. Positively take full responsibility for the next steps on your path. Leave the unchangeable past behind you and diligently give yourself to the present moment. In this moment is every possibility you seek. Take responsibility for and bring these possibilities to life.

Being close minded to new ideas and perspectives.

Remember that success in life does not depend on always being right. To make real progress, you must let go of the assumption that you have all the answers. Even as you grow wiser with age, you must remind yourself that an understanding is never absolute or final. What’s currently right could easily be wrong later. Thus, the most dangerous and destructive illusion is a settled point of view.

Don’t stop learning, don’t stop investing in yourself. Study. Read. Devour knowledge. Engage with people, including those who think differently. Ask questions. Listen closely, and don’t just grow in knowledge. Be a person who gives back. Use what you are learning to make a real and lasting difference.

Letting negative people continuously distract you.

Your mind is your private sanctuary; do not allow the negative beliefs of others to occupy it. Your skin is your barrier; do not allow others to get under it. Take good care of your personal boundaries and what you allow yourself to absorb from others.

There will inevitably be a few people in your life who will be critical of you, regardless of what you do or how well you do it. If you say you want to be a dancer, they will discredit your taste in music. If you say you want to build a new business, they will give you a dozen reasons why it might not work. They somehow assume you don’t have what it takes, but they are dead wrong! Let that sink in.

It’s a lot easier to be negative than positive, a lot easier to be critical than correct. When you’re embarking on a new venture, instead of listening to the few critics that will try to distract you, spend time talking to one of the hundreds of people in this world who are willing to support your efforts and acknowledge your potential, respectfully.

Holding onto something that isn’t real.

Remind yourself, right now, that not everything is meant to be. Sometimes you have to track the data, review the data, and seriously sit down with yourself and come to grips with the fact that you were wrong about it all along. It was just an illusion that never really was what you thought it was.

It’s one of the most difficult realizations to accept, to realize it creates a sense of loss. Even though you never really had what you thought you had in the first place. The key is knowing, learning from it, letting go, and taking the next step forward.

Maintaining rigid expectations every step of the way.

Simple things become complicated when you expect too much. Rigid expectations truly are a root cause of heartache. Don’t let them get the best of you. Every difficult life situation can be an excuse for hopelessness or an opportunity for personal growth, depending on what you choose to do with it. So start by choosing to let go of the expectations that aren’t serving you.

A mistake doesn’t hurt, expectation does. A rejection doesn’t hurt, expectation does. And so it goes.

Remember that the mind is your battleground. It’s the place where the fiercest conflict resides. It’s where half the things you feared would happen, never actually happened. It’s where your expectations get the best of you, and you fall victim to your own train of thought time and time again. So don’t lower your standards, but do remember that removing your rigid expectations in life is the best way to avoid being disappointed by everyone and everything you encounter.

One of the most important moments in life is the moment you finally find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself — to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything

Exercise

If you feel a like you’ve wasted too much time and energy on one or more of the points above, the following quick actionable exercise should get you started.

Choose any area in your life that you want to improve, and then:

• Write down the specific details about your current circumstances.

  What’s bothering you? Where are you stuck? What do you want to change?

• Write what are the daily habits that have contributed to your current circumstances.

  Be honest with yourself, what are you doing regularly that actually contributes to the situation you’re in?

• Write a few specific details about the “better circumstances” you’d like to create for yourself.

  What would make you happy? What does an improved situation look like for you?

• What are the daily habits that will get you from where you are to where you want to be?

  Think about it, what small, daily steps will help you gradually move forward from point A to point B?